Thank you so much. Thank you so much, President Christ, the Board of Trustees, members of the faculty, devoted parents and friends, and especially the fabulous class of 2013.
Congratulations. You've reached the light at the end of the tunnel. And when you first arrived at Smith four years ago, I'm sure you never imagined that at the end of that tunnel, there would be a lady behind the podium talking to you in a funny accent.
This accent has been the bane of my existence until, in 1980, I moved to New York from England, and I met Henry Kissinger. And he said to me, "Don't ever worry about your accent. In American public life, you can never underestimate the advantages of complete and total incomprehensibility."
I am so grateful to be with you at this very special moment. You don't know it, but I have spent the last few weeks stalking you on your Smith's websites, on your Twitter feeds, on Facebook, on Instagram, on Tumblr, so I could get to know you better.
So here's what I have found: You're fascinating and curious and quirky, and asking the big questions and worrying about the little things, and solving the cosmic riddles, and agonizing about what shoes to wear at commencement, and what happens if you trip and become a YouTube sensation.
I've learned about Smithies writing honors theses on subjects that I don't only understand but I can't even pronounce. Like Lisa Stephanie Cunden's thesis on...
我也已經知曉Smith校友寫出榮譽論文，在那些我不只不了解，還甚至念都念不出來的主題上。就像Lisa Stephanie Cunden的論文...
Hi Lisa! I want you to hear her thesis pronounced in a Greek accent.
(Thesis) on Entropy and Enthalpy Contributions to the Keloid Effect.
I've learned about the three seniors who are part of the basketball team, which made the division three NCAA tournament, a historic accomplishment to add to your already...lots of fans for them! A historic accomplishment to add to your already historic status as the birthplace of women's basketball.
I've learned about the many Smithies who will be the first in their families to graduate from college, like Massiel De los Santos who began her journey in the Dominican Republic.
我也已認識了許多將會是家族裡第一個從大學畢業的Smith學生，像是在多明尼加共和國開始她的旅程的Massiel De los Santos。
So before I go any further, because I've been so impressed, I feel compelled to extend to all of you, graduating class of 2013, a lifelong invitation to blog on The Huffington Post about your graduation and about all your adventures on the next stage of the journey you're starting today.
And in order to bypass the growing Huffington Post bureaucracy, I'm going to give you right now my e-mail address: email@example.com. And you can send it directly to me, and get a password for life.
Getting to know you has made me feel very protective of you, especially because I have two daughters who are about your age, college age kids. And it has also made me realize that you don't need protection, because you're absolutely ready and prepared to take on the world.
And if you have attended the Wurtele Center for Work and Life, you even have a Passport to Life After Smith, with the opportunity to learn things like job interviewing skills, how to balance a budget, cook a healthy meal, and even change a tire.
So you can consider my speech today a continuation of the Passport to Life After Smith, though in the interest of full disclosure, I can't cook and definitely cannot change a tire. But part of life after Smith will be deciding what things do you want to put your energy into, and what things you don't.
It was a big revelation for me when I realized that I didn't have to complete everything I thought I wanted to do, like learning German, or becoming a good skier, or learning to cook. Indeed, I realized that you can complete a project by dropping it.
Now, commencement speakers are traditionally expected to tell graduates how to get out there and climb the ladder of success. But I want to ask you, instead, to redefine success, because the world you're headed into desperately needs it, and because you're up to it.
Your education at Smith has made it unequivocally clear that you're entitled to take your place in the world on equal footing in every field and at the top of every field. But what I urge you to do is not just to take your place at the top of the world but to change the world. What I urge you to do is to lead the third women's revolution.
The first was led by the suffragists over a hundred years ago, when brave women like Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton fought, among other things, to give women the right to vote.
第一次是在一百年前由主張婦女有參政權的人士所領導，當時像是Susan B. Anthony及 Elizabeth Cady Stanton的勇敢女性，除了其他的權力之外，特別爭取要給女性投票權。
The second women's revolution was powerfully led by Smith alumnae, Betty Friedan and Gloria Steinem. They fought, and Gloria continues to fight, to expand their role of women in our society, to give us full access to the rooms of power where decisions are being made.
第二次女性革命是由Smith校友，Betty Friedan及Gloria Steinem強力領導。她們奮戰，而Gloria繼續奮戰、去擴展在我們社會中她們女性的角色、去給予我們完整的參與權來到做決策的權力場所。
And while the second revolution is still in progress, we simply cannot wait any longer for the third revolution to begin. And I can't imagine a place, where I would more likely to find the leaders of that revolution than right here at Smith.
At the moment, our society's notion of success is largely composed of two parts: money and power. In fact, success, money, and power have practically become synonymous. But it's time for a third metric beyond money and power: one founded on well-being, wisdom, our ability to wonder and to give back.
You know, money and power by themselves are like a two-legged stool. You can balance on them for a while, but eventually you're going to topple over. And more and more people, very successful people, are toppling over every day.
Basically, success, the way we've defined it is no longer sustainable. It's not sustainable for human beings; it's not sustainable for the planet. To live the lives we want and not just the lives we settle for, the lives according to society's definition of success, we need to include the third metric.
In 2004, President Christ gave a speech that was really ahead of its time. It was titled Inside the Clockwork of Women's Careers. To me, it's very much a third women's revolution call to arms. She spoke of the need to dispel myths about ambition and success, chief among them the myth that success and ambition look like a straight line.
Now I guess it's no big surprise that the image of success created by men would be, yes, a long, phallic-shaped straight line. But if we don't redefine success, the personal price we pay will get higher and higher.
As the data shows, already, the price is much higher for women than for men. Among career women, who have stressful jobs (and which career woman doesn't), there is a nearly 40 percent increased risk of heart disease, and a 60 percent increased risk of diabetes. And in the last 30 years, as women have made strides and gains in the workplace, self-reported levels of stress have gone up by 18 percent.
Another Smith graduation speaker, Alistair Cooke, notoriously told the class of 1954 that their way to the top would be determined by the man they married.
Well... I want to do old Alistair one better, and tell you don't get to the top by marrying someone. A much simpler way is to sleep your way to the top. Right now I imagine President Christ is thinking she probably should have edited this speech. But no, I'm talking about sleep in the literal sense, because right now the workplace is absolutely fueled by sleep deprivation and burnout.
I actually know of what I speak, because in 2007, sleep deprived and exhausted, I fainted, hit my head on my desk, broke my cheekbone, and got four stitches on my right eye.
And that was the beginning of my reacquainting myself with sleep, and with a need to redefine success to include our own sense of well-being. Because even if sleep deprivation is not affecting your health, it's affecting your creativity, your productivity and your decision-making.
Did you know that the Exxon Valdez wreck, the explosion of the Challenger space shuttle, and the nuclear accidents at Chernobyl and Three Mile Island were at least all partially the result of decisions made on too little sleep?
And according to researchers at Walter Reed Hospital, the only thing that gets better with sleep deprivation is "magical thinking" and reliance on superstition. So for those of you majoring in fortune-telling, go ahead, and burn the midnight oil. The rest of you—not so much.
As you can tell by now, I'm a major sleep evangelist. Indeed, at The Huffington Post, in our newsroom, we have two nap rooms. And at first, you know, our hundreds of editors and reporters and engineers were very reluctant to be seen in the middle of the afternoon having a nap, but now the two nap rooms are continuously booked, and we need to open a third.
Although I must say the other day I was walking by one of the nap rooms, and I saw two people coming out of the nap room. And I thought to myself: Whatever it takes to recharge yourself. Just... Just please don't tell HR, okay?
What adding well-being to our definition of success means is that in addition to looking after a financial capital, we need to look after our human capital.
My mother was an expert at that. I remember when I was 12 years old, a successful Greek businessman came to dinner at our home in Athens. And he told us how well everything was going in his life.
My mother looked at him, looking burned out, exhausted, drained, and said to him, "I don't care how well your business is doing. You're not taking care of you. Your business might have a great bottom line, but you're your most important capital. There are only so many withdrawals you can make from your health bank account, but you just keep on withdrawing. You could go bankrupt if you don't make some deposits soon." And indeed, not long after that, the man had to be admitted for an angioplasty.
When we include well-being in our definition of success, another thing that changes is our relationship with time. Right now, we are all so stressed out about time that every time we look at our watch, it's later than we think. Researchers have a term for it: time famine.
And Dr. Seuss wrote about it, ahead of the researchers, of course. "How did it get so late so soon?" he wrote, "It's night before it's afternoon. December is here before it's June. My goodness how the time has flown. How did it get so late so soon?" Does that feel familiar to anyone? Or more likely, to everyone?
The problem is that as long as success is defined by just money and power, climbing and burnout, we would never have the time to be able to enjoy that other aspect of the third metric: wonder.
I was blessed with a mother who was living in a constant state of wonder. Whether she was washing the dishes, or feeding seagulls at the beach, or reprimanding overworking businessman, she maintained her sense of wonder, delighted at both the mysteries of the universe and the everyday little things that fill our lives.
And whenever I'd complain or be upset about something, she would said to me, "Darling, change the channel. You're in control of the clicker. Don't replay that bad, scary movie."
And one of the gifts that that attitude to life gave her was the ability to cut through hierarchies. I remember one night I was living in London and dating a Tory member of parliament. It must have been one of those decisions made on sleep deprivation. And he brought home to dinner and the then Prime Minister Ted Heath.
My mother was in the kitchen, where she was most of the time. And the plumber had to come in to fix some last-minute problems. So my mother asked the plumber what he thought of the Prime Minister.
"Not much," the plumber said, "he hasn't been good for working people."
"Oh," my mother said, "let me go bring him here, so you can tell him directly." And she didn't think there was any problem at all about bringing the Prime Minister into the kitchen, and that's where he sat down and...and heard a mouthful from the plumber.
Well-being, wonder, and now the third W—wisdom. If you look around you, you see leaders in positions of power in politics, in media, in business, all of them with high IQs, great degrees making terrible decisions. What is missing is not IQ but wisdom.
And today, it's getting harder and harder to tap into our own wisdom, because we are all so hyper-connected to our devices, our screens, our social media that we're having a hard time disconnecting from technology and reconnecting with ourselves.
Your very own, very wise Smith sophomore Erin McDaniel wrote in the Sophian about her decision to disconnect from all her social media. "We have eschewed," she said, "real social connections in favor of superficial, technology-bridged ones. We have become, in many cases, nearly as socially robotic as our computers."
Now, you don't have the head of a digital company telling you to completely disconnect from technology. What I'm telling you is to regularly disconnect from technology, to regularly unplug and recharge in order to reconnect with ourselves and our own deepest wisdom.
Because I'm convinced that there are two fundamental truth about human beings: The first truth is that we all have within us a centered place of wisdom, harmony and strength. This is a truth that all the world's religions (whether Christianity, Islam, Judaism or Buddhism) and many of its philosophies hold true in one form or another: the kingdom of God is within.
But the second truth is that we're all going to spend most of our lives not in that place. We keep veering away from that place again and again and again. In fact, we may spend our lives off course more than we're on course. At The Huffington Post, we even launched an app called GPS for the Soul that gives you a proxy for stress, and then personalized guides that help you course correct.
But you know, that snake in the garden of Eden—our hyperconnectivity to technology—is so wily that we have to be even more wily, and use technology in order to disconnect from technology.
When we're in that centered place of wisdom, harmony and strength, life is transformed from struggle to grace. And we're suddenly filled with trust, no matter how many setbacks, challenges, and disappointments we're facing, because there is a purpose to life that is often hidden, and that often makes sense only when we look back on our lives, not as we're experiencing it. And basically when we move to that place of trust and grace, we can live our lives as Rumi suggested, as if everything is rigged in our favor.
So we've talked about well-being, wisdom, and wonder, and now the last element of the third metric of success: empathy, compassion, the willingness to give back.
The founding fathers wrote about the pursuit of happiness. But if you go back to the original document, as I'm sure all of you Smithies have done, happiness does not mean the pursuit of more ways to be entertained. It's the happiness that comes from feeling good by doing good.
Of course, many of you already know that. Smithies have given back in countless ways, near and far: working with Chinese schools and NGOs through the Smith-China Project, spending time in the community with people with disabilities through the Best Buddies Program, tutoring children in Holly Oak, and using digital storytelling to start conversations about health issues in Springfield.
So as you leave this beautiful campus to follow your dreams, and scale great heights in whatever field you choose, I beg you, don't buy society's definition of success, because it's not working for anyone. It's not working for women; it's not working for men; it's not working for polar bears; it's not even working for the cicadas that are about to emerge and swarm us.
It's only truly working for those who make pharmaceuticals for stress, sleeplessness and high blood pressure. So please don't settle for just breaking through glass ceilings in a broken corporate system or a broken political system, where so many leaders are so disconnected from the wisdom that we're careening from one self-inflicted crisis to another.
Change much more than the "M" to a "W" at the top of the corporate flow chart. Change it by going to the root of what's wrong, and redefining what we value, and what we consider success.
And remember that while there will be many sign poles along your path directing you to make money, and climb up the ladder, there will be very few sign poles reminding you to stay connected to the essence of who you are, to reach out, to pause to wonder, and to connect to that place from which everything is possible.
My Greek compatriot Archimedes said, "Give me a place to stand, and I can move the world." So find your place to stand, your place of wisdom, and peace, and strength. And from that place, lead the third women's revolution, and remake the world in your own image, and your own definition of success. So that all of us, women and men, can live our lives with more grace, more joy, more empathy, more gratitude, and yes, more love.
So class of 2013, congratulations onward upward and inward. Thank you.
- 「為了」- In The Interest Of
...though in the interest of full disclosure, I can't cook and definitely cannot change a tire.
- 「除了其他方面」- Among Other Things
...when brave women like Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton fought, among other things, to give women the right to vote.
...當時像是Susan B. Anthony及 Elizabeth Cady Stanton的勇敢女性，除了其他的權力之外，特別爭取要給女性投票權。
- 「倒下、翻覆」- Topple Over
You can balance on them for a while, but eventually you're going to topple over.
- 「召喚」- Call To Arms
To me, it's very much a third women's revolution call to arms.
- 「比...做得更好」- Do One Better
I want to do old Alistair one better, and tell you don't get to the top by marrying someone.
- 「熬夜」- Burn The Midnight Oil
So for those of you majoring in fortune-telling, go ahead, and burn the midnight oil. The rest of you—not so much.
- 「照顧、追求」- Look After
...we need to look after our human capital.
- 「結果」- Bottom Line
"Your business might have a great bottom line, but you're your most important capital."
- 「克服、抄近路」- Cut Through
And one of the gifts that that attitude to life gave her was the ability to cut through hierarchies.
- 「挖掘利用」- Tap Into
And today, it's getting harder and harder to tap into our own wisdom...
- 「支持、有利於」- In Favor Of
"We have eschewed," she said, "real social connections in favor of superficial, technology-bridged ones."