Oh my God. I might get emotional. Okay. The biggest thing I wanna tell you is that it's okay to struggle.
For anyone who is out there struggling, know that you're not alone. There's other people going through what you are going through, too.
Being good to yourself—I think sometimes people don't give themselves permission to honor themselves and be good to themselves.
What you feel is real, and it matters.
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Right now, you might be feeling like there is no way out, and you might be feeling like your only way out is to end it all. But by doing that, you're robbing yourself from the opportunity to find happiness and to realize how beautiful this life really is.
Give yourself a break. Take some time off, even if it's just for a, you know, a day on the weekend or something.
Be patient with yourself. We all go through hard times, and don't let anyone tell you or discourage you from what you're going through.
You know, when I went through what I was going through, I had such a difficult time with my parents. Because they didn't know how to communicate with me about it, and I didn't know how to communicate with them about it. The world is so big now. The Internet is there. There are resources. You just have to know what the right questions are to ask and figure out how to find the people that are going through the same things as you.
Get off the couch. Just like, get off the couch. I know it's so easy to sink into it when you're feeling crummy. Force yourself on a walk. Make sure you're moving your body. Whatever that looks like—dance, yoga, hiking, football, anything. Just move your body.
Whatever it takes, go get help. We live in a place where you can get help. If it takes five weeks, three weeks, a month, just wait patiently. Don't give up. Don't give up on your life, because you will eventually be the person you were before. Trust me on that.
I just want you to remember that you can create something from the pain that you're feeling. You can help people, and in the midst of all of it, just love yourself, be patient with yourself.
These are things that make you wonderful and unique and develop the personality and develop you into the person you are meant to become. And know that you are loved, and you're special, and you're wonderful.
Every day, I'll write down the things that I'm grateful for. And when I'm in those dark places—even if I don't believe it—I will just look at that list, and say it out loud, and remind myself it's going to be okay, and you have so much to live for.
Be good to yourself. Forgive yourself. Be kind to yourself. You deserve it. It starts with you, and I promise, I promise it'll get better.
Find people who care. And if there is no one who does care, stick up for yourself and advocate for yourself because you're worth it.
Things will start to happen, motion will start to happen, and it's never, ever, ever, going to be cut-and-dry, easy, black-and-white. I'm anxious, I feel better. Like, it's never going to be that.
But, at the end of the day, it feels so much better to move forward than to stay stuck.
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